Caring OR Intrusion

There is a fine line between Caring for / about someone, and intruding where you shouldn't.

This fine line is known as BOUNDARIES

Now much can be written about personal Boundaries so I'll make that a discussion for another time.

The reason I am writing about this is because I myself am guilty as I am sure many of you who read this, may be also.

So how does it start?

Generally you are a caring person, one who enjoys giving of yourself to others. Now there is nothing wrong with giving, it is commendable. However, it should not be done at the expence of overstepping another's personal boundaries. 

In other words, don't assume the other person wants, or would like you to do something?  Ask them first, and allow them to accept or reject.

Caring is: * Treating others with kindness and respect. 

  *  Being sensitive to anothers feeling.

* Giving help when needed and when asked.

* Using empathy in a caring capacity.

Common sense needs to be used for when the help is needed without the asking, (as when a person is injured).  Or, when you should ask.

Not everyone likes to recieve help, especially those with a cultural difference.

  

Intrusion is: Giving what one may consider as extra care.

In other words, going beyond that which has been asked or that which is required.

By doing this,  personel boundaries for the other person can be overstepped.

*Quote: Too often we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring.

All of which has the potential to turn a life around.

(Leo F Buscaglia)

*And the Bible book of Matthew 7:12.

"So whatever you wish others to do for you, do for them also."